For 25 years, I’ve been hosting Thanksgiving dinner. They began in our modest apartment in Pasadena at a time when money was tight, and our hopes and dreams were bright. Presaged by road trips to the famous Huntsinger Ranch in the San Fernando Valley, birds roamed free less as captives and more like privileged avian creatures in California pastures.
We settled on the margins of my husband's hometown; where a carousel of 30-something siblings were also newly married. New faiths and families pulled each in different directions, but all were expected to make an appearance at his parents on Thanksgiving Day.
Deep-Fried Turkey was the standard fare > Detroit, Dallas, NFL > friends, cousins and ne'er-do-wells come one, God willing, come all! Their 'Cauliflower Pie' a cherished standby and more of a sacrifice than a side. Thus a split-second decision; opt-out of the commission; and create for myself a new tradition.
Seating and silverware were scarce my first year, and I’ll admit that we (my new sister-in-law and me) ate at the kitchen counter whilst our new husbands joined their family at table. (Bitter! Party of 2?) We borrowed pots, purchased pans, (the french bisque soup was Au Bon Pain), and while turkey and gravy underwent revision our Thanksgiving feast became the new tradition.
The family grew, as they do, more square feet and mouths to feed, china and crystal patterns are now complete. Today, it’s a well-rehearsed ride off Beverly Drive and why do they still request that silly 'Cauliflower Pie?' Mutiny on the bounty might've changed the county but the beat goes on by and by.
So many have come and gone through the years just like Leaves: blowing in and out of our lives after a single season. Or Branches: they can last several seasons but always tend to break in a storm. Finally, there are the Roots: the constant infrastructure of sweet family life. Dear Editor, here’s why I write:
My sister-in-law — with whom I began this journey at my kitchen counter a quarter century ago — has never once asked us to her home on Thanksgiving. Year after year we always eat here, but last year my ask came a little too dear. Her declination came as a shock, and as I have stated its a tradition I created but have lost the spirit of the day.
"Down & Out in Beverly Hills"